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13/01/2017

STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF


Salute to all the go getters out there! But you know what? Sometimes the struggle is real, obstacles can get in your way and it can become hard to achieve your goals. Have you ever noticed a pattern in your behaviour when trying to accomplish something? You find that you begin to internally harm yourself. This could be in a variety of different ways - doubting your ability, discrediting your achievements and just being downright negative. This happened to me and I had to take a step back and reflect on why I was being so unkind to myself. 

As humans we can be so critical of ourselves. It can become quite easy to fall into a trap of comparison in today's society, you may start to question yourself on why you haven't reached your goal yet? Why the person next to you has achieved their goal quicker than you. Take note of your behavioural patterns and identify when you're being hard on yourself. I can't stress how important it is to notice when you're putting yourself down. Negative thoughts will diminish your visions and to be frank you will gain nothing from putting yourself down time and time again. 

I believe self - reflection is one of the most important factors in growth. If you don't reflect, how can you possibly learn and develop as an individual? When I find that I get stuck in a rut, I remind myself of the following things: 

Everything takes time 

Achievements rarely happen overnight, it takes hard work, dedication and in many cases sleepless nights. If you expect things to happen quickly, this is where you are making your first mistake. Focusing too much on your end goal will only stifle you. Yes, of course we have to aim for something but pay attention to what you're doing right now in this very moment. How can you improve? What could you be doing differently? I promise you, if you remain in the present and develop your goal right now, the end achievement will be more than you hoped for. 

We all need a break

If you want to lie in bed all day, eat pizza to your hearts consent or just simply take a break, do it. Have you ever found yourself burnt out because you're constantly trying to do something? I get it, if you're not being active you feel unproductive but the matter of fact is that we all need to take a break sometimes. From personal experience, when I try to force productivity, I just produce complete and utter rubbish. I recognise that I need to regain my thoughts and simply just relax and revaluate. 

Stop comparing 

I will say this until I'm blue in the face, do not compare yourself to ANYONE. Rather than sitting on your phone all day, scrolling through Instagram or Twitter and looking at what other people are achieving, put your phone down and focus on you! You don't know what other people are going through and remember that social media platforms only pin point the moments that people want you to see. Stay in your lane and do you because at the end of the day being you is special enough. 


Get inspired 

Are you finding yourself stifled? Stuck for ideas? Something that helped me in a massive way, was to get inspired. Whether you visit a gallery or museum, a park, travel - whatever it is, find inspiration in something you love and I can guarantee you it will help, even if only a little. 

Ultimately, there will always be challenges in life but being cruel to yourself will only set you back and stop you from achieving your goals. Be kind to yourself, celebrate your achievements and pat yourself on the back. You've come this far and you know what? That's amazing enough.
2 comments on "STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF"
  1. Great post babe. Move at our own pace you'll get there!

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